Slight swerve from beauty + fashion related stuff today…I hope you don’t mind. I’ve wanted to write this post for a while now as I have a few friends who have like me, in the past have been in total denial that they were actually in a bad relationship with a bad person.
Unfortunately in my short 22 years of life i’ve been able to tick off: ‘taking bad person back time and again’ off the ‘shit things that happen’ list and the reason I want to write this blog post is to help people like myself who have put up with shitty behaviour in a relationship because they don’t feel they have a choice but to live with it. Or sadder still, nobody else will want them and they are worthless. If there is a question mark lingering in your mind, here are a three things that will help you acknowledge if you are in a bad relationship.
With every bad egg, there is always an early warning sign to let you know and as much as you want to ignore it, you shouldn’t as it will save you from making a fool of yourself down the line. Examples of warning signs i’ve experienced in the past is a guy telling me: “Yeah i’ve cheated multiple times before and I don’t regret it.” Or even more dangerous, the guy who pinky promised (don’t laugh, a pinky promise is binding!) that we would date exclusively…Not two days later a friend informed me that they’d seen said guy out snogging the face off NOT ONE, but TWO other girls in the same night, one of which was an ex fling!
If you’re dating a guy and there’s a warning sign or two…Act upon it and get rid! PS…Watch out for the two timer warning, double check that before you get serious with someone that they are not ‘finishing up’ with somebody else and stringing you both along while they decide who they want, because one day you’ll be the person they’re ‘finishing up’ with.
And whilst i’m not confident enough yet to say “hell yeaaa i’m just fine” I can say that I had a very lucky escape from the repeated cycles of shitty behaviour and someday, all of this will be explained, just like it will be for you.